Today's Christian Dating and Marriage for the 'older crowd'

So, when people say we just couldn't wait till we got married.  I was married before, I don't need to wait.  I would like to say, whether you have been married before, whether you have 'done it with someone else'.  There is no harm in waiting till marriage.  Yes men may be pushy the older you get.  But it is AOK to hold your ground.  And you say oh yeah you have been married more than once. 

You are absolutely right.  I have been married to two previous men.  I did not abstain with them.  I also had not yet been saved and I was in a bad place in my life spiritually, emotionally and psychologically.  I did not respect myself and I chose men who would eventually cheat on me, lie to me and be physically abusive to me (only one did that).  I didn't understand that I was worthy of good healthy love.

When I met my current husband he was very vigilant in his no sex before marriage belief.  He also had never been married and was a virgin.  I know its nuts right.  But he was an amazing person.  We spent our time talking and sharing information on who we were.  By the time we took the step into our marriage we knew each other in a more intimate and emotional way than physical interaction would have ever let us get.

When I walked down the aisle on our wedding day, I have never felt so loved.  I have never felt so appreciated.  I have never felt so sure.  We were connected in such a basic way but it was so deep.  When we did share our first evening together it wasn't work.  It just happened.  Things work out how they should.

If you are a Christian Woman do not feel like you have to sacrifice yourself to not be alone.  There are amazing men out there that are ready to accept you for you.  If you are not in a place where you accept you for you, you will not find him.  He will overlook you looking for someone who is happy in their skin.  Go to your minister, your friends and find how beautiful you are inside and out.  Maybe you have a disorder or a disease that is a thing.  It does not define you.  Everyone is beautiful through Christ.  Open your heart to you and leave it open for the man of your dreams to come in.