Is dysfunctional really a term to use for families?

So, when I look at my family, I guess some people would look at my life and say..."wow...dysfunctional".  Yeah maybe.  But, its my family and with all the quirks and hardships it has made me who I am which is someone who is very functional.  So I thought what does dysfunctional really mean?

Definition:

dys·func·tion·al

[dis-fuhngk-shuh-nl]

ADJECTIVE

1. not performing normally, as an organ or structure of the body; malfunctioning.

2. having a malfunctioning part or element: It is hard to get bills through a dysfunctional congress.

3. behaving or acting outside social norms: All the siblings in their extremely dysfunctional family lost contact as adults.

Who sets social norms?  Who decides what is or is not normal.  Who decides what the ultimate norm is?  Is it set by a specific group of rich people who they are perfect?  I don't know this answer.  What I do know is at the end of the day......I don't think normal exists.  

I grew up with my grandparents.  I grew up knowing that my father lived in Florida and my mother lived in Illinois.  I didn't see them a lot.  My father had whatever his reasons were for not coming to see me and I am not going to lie...there have been a lot of times that I have felt angry over how ignored I was by him.  My grandparents had full custody of me and wouldn't let my mother take me for a day or a night or a weekend.  I know there is a lot to the story I haven't been told from their perspective.  I have heard my mothers side. So yeah, it was abnormal as far as not having my parents in the house.  But I met other people with those norms.  Other people being raised by someone other than their parents.  So to us it was the norm.  

So is it that I am only dysfunctional to people who weren't that way.  Should I look at someone who was raised differently than I was as dysfunctional?  Why does anyone have to be considered dysfunctional in any way?  

I did a lot of thinking on this.  I decided this.  We are all dysfunctional by definition. Maybe it is who raised you.  Maybe it is the color of your parents (ie one is one race one is another), maybe it is considered not the norm to have a step parent or to be a step parent or to be a single parent.  We all have some sort of definitive dysfunctional.  So why do we label it?  Why does it need a label.  All labels do is create victims.